Breathe Life into Your Dreams with the Power of Optimism, ep 888
Breathe Life into Your Dreams with the Power of Optimism, ep 888
Introduction
Welcome back to Your Ultimate Life! In this episode, I'm diving deep into one of my favorite topics: the transformative power of optimism. I'll share how optimism is like oxygen for your dreams, fueling your journey toward a life of purpose, prosperity, and joy.
Defining Optimism: More Than Just Positive Thinking
Let's clarify what optimism truly means. It's not about ignoring challenges or pretending everything is perfect. Optimism is a choice, a belief in the possibility of a better future, and a commitment to taking action toward your goals.
The Science of Optimism: How It Impacts Your Brain and Body
Did you know that optimism profoundly impacts your brain and body? We'll explore the fascinating research on how optimism can boost your mood, reduce stress, and even improve your physical health.
Optimism and Resilience: Bouncing Back from Adversity
Life throws curveballs, but optimism can help you catch them. I'll share personal stories and examples of how an optimistic mindset can help you navigate challenges, setbacks, and even trauma, emerging stronger and more resilient.
Cultivating Optimism: Practical Tips and Techniques
Ready to boost your optimism? I'll share practical tips and techniques you can use today, like practicing gratitude, reframing negative thoughts, and surrounding yourself with positive influences.
Optimism in Action: Real-Life Examples of Transformation
Get inspired by real-life stories of individuals who have transformed their lives through the power of optimism. These stories will show you what's possible when you embrace an optimistic outlook.
The Ripple Effect: How Your Optimism Impacts Others
Your optimism isn't just for you – it can have a ripple effect on those around you. We'll discuss how your positive energy can inspire and uplift others, creating a more joyful and supportive environment.
Action Items
- Read the book "Living with Purpose and Power" to understand how to reconnect with one's true nature.
- Seek out online and in-person platforms to connect with others and end isolation.
- Practice deep gratitude daily by focusing on specific things one is grateful for.
- Reach out to Kellan if you or someone you know has overcome challenges and achieved daily joy, to share one's story on the podcast.
Next Steps and Free Resources
Visit https://www.yourultimatelife.ca for free resources and tools to help you create your ultimate life.
Ready to breathe life into your dreams? Join me on this journey of optimism and discover the incredible potential within you. Subscribe to the podcast, share it with your friends, and let's create a brighter future together!
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Transcript
Welcome to your ultimate life podcast, where we
Joy Fluckiger:help you break free from mediocrity and create a life of
Joy Fluckiger:purpose, prosperity and joy. Get your free video series at your
Joy Fluckiger:ultimate life.ca.
Kellan Fluckiger:Hey there, welcome to your ultimate life.
Kellan Fluckiger:Welcome to the show. I am so excited today, I get to talk
Kellan Fluckiger:about one of my favorite things in the world. Now, if I could
Kellan Fluckiger:give you two things, if I could give you two things, it would be
Kellan Fluckiger:a true view of who you are. And optimism. Optimism, optimism is
Kellan Fluckiger:one of the things that I would give you if I could give you the
Kellan Fluckiger:most valuable thing in the universe or one of the most
Kellan Fluckiger:valuable things. And a true view a true understanding a deep
Kellan Fluckiger:knowledge of who you are would be the other. Now who you really
Kellan Fluckiger:are, we've talked about that other shows, and we will again,
Kellan Fluckiger:I love this picture, I hope you're watching the video,
Kellan Fluckiger:because there's this picture behind me of a beautiful sunset.
Kellan Fluckiger:It could be a sunrise, but I think it's a sunset. And some
Kellan Fluckiger:water in between some beautiful trees. And that sunlight is
Kellan Fluckiger:coloring the trees orange and everything. And then behind me
Kellan Fluckiger:this, this looks like a river maybe. Maybe it's the end of a
Kellan Fluckiger:lake. But anyway, there's a stack of rocks and great big
Kellan Fluckiger:rock on the bottom and then and it's a round rock and then they
Kellan Fluckiger:stack up a little higher and there looks like there's four
Kellan Fluckiger:maybe one under the water five rock stacked up in a kind of an
Kellan Fluckiger:altar like thing except the top rock is too high and too small.
Kellan Fluckiger:To be really an altar for anything to be on it anyway,
Kellan Fluckiger:when I look at that. i What do you think? What do you feel when
Kellan Fluckiger:you see that picture? Well, I'll tell you what I feel okay, she
Kellan Fluckiger:just listened to the audio, I've tried to describe it. It is a
Kellan Fluckiger:peaceful scene, it makes you feel peace. It makes you feel
Kellan Fluckiger:connected, it can make you feel powerful. It can make you feel
Kellan Fluckiger:like things are okay. The world is as it should be the universe
Kellan Fluckiger:is moving. Well, why does a picture like that make us feel
Kellan Fluckiger:that? Well, I don't know all the neuro chemistry. But there is a
Kellan Fluckiger:sense of peace, a sense of order, those rocks are stacked
Kellan Fluckiger:on top of each other that way, and obviously I have no idea how
Kellan Fluckiger:they got there, somebody put them there. But it would have
Kellan Fluckiger:been a lot of work to do that because at least that first and
Kellan Fluckiger:second rock are going to be quite heavy, and probably even
Kellan Fluckiger:the third one. So it took some effort to get that up there. But
Kellan Fluckiger:there's a sense with the colors and the placement and the
Kellan Fluckiger:reflection in the river. Which I just moved to the side so you
Kellan Fluckiger:can see it is just beautiful. Now, what does that have to do
Kellan Fluckiger:with creating your ultimate life? Well, this turns out a
Kellan Fluckiger:lot. Here's what I know, from my own experience. And I want you
Kellan Fluckiger:to think about this. When you are frantic, when your life
Kellan Fluckiger:seems to be overwhelming and moving at a crazy pace, when you
Kellan Fluckiger:have too many demands on your time and too many demands on
Kellan Fluckiger:your heart. How effective are you at working? How are you? How
Kellan Fluckiger:effective? Are you at producing not just something but producing
Kellan Fluckiger:your best results? Well, the answer isn't not. Not ever. And
Kellan Fluckiger:you know that. And I know people who say Oh, they do really good
Kellan Fluckiger:under pressure. And I'm not questioning that they probably
Kellan Fluckiger:do. But producing that way is very stressful, a lot of stress
Kellan Fluckiger:hormones and a real demand on your spirit and your body. And
Kellan Fluckiger:often. In those kinds of stressful situations. You're
Kellan Fluckiger:just hoping that it works. You're hoping against hope and
Kellan Fluckiger:powering through doing something difficult? Well, I want to, I
Kellan Fluckiger:want to present a different view. Now I told you, I'd give
Kellan Fluckiger:you two things. And I briefly want to talk about the first
Kellan Fluckiger:one, which is a real understanding of who you are. We
Kellan Fluckiger:know when we sit quietly, like imagine for a minute you're
Kellan Fluckiger:sitting on the side of this lake or river. And you're looking at
Kellan Fluckiger:that stillness, that still water and that stack of rocks with its
Kellan Fluckiger:symmetry and its beauty. Imagine further that you've got nothing
Kellan Fluckiger:else to do know where you're supposed to be. You just hear I
Kellan Fluckiger:want you to just close your eyes for a minute. Unless you're
Kellan Fluckiger:driving and listen to my voice. Imagine for a moment you are
Kellan Fluckiger:looking at those rocks or some other still and beautiful scene
Kellan Fluckiger:just like that. And there are no demands on your heart. There's
Kellan Fluckiger:no where you're supposed to be. There's nothing you have to do
Kellan Fluckiger:right now. I don't mean ever right now. Nothing you have to
Kellan Fluckiger:do. and you are allowed to just breathe in deeply. So do that
Kellan Fluckiger:right now breathe in deeply through your nose
Kellan Fluckiger:do it again, deeply in
Kellan Fluckiger:now, if you've participated with me fully, just two breaths like
Kellan Fluckiger:that will slow your heartbeat. It'll lower your blood pressure
Kellan Fluckiger:a couple of points. They will reset your perspective, a
Kellan Fluckiger:little, or a lot, depending on how frantic you were to start
Kellan Fluckiger:with. There's a couple of reasons to do that. Just that
Kellan Fluckiger:moment that 30 seconds or 40 seconds of slowing down, can
Kellan Fluckiger:teach you a lesson if you want it. And the lesson is this, you
Kellan Fluckiger:have the availability of slowing your perspective, and getting
Kellan Fluckiger:back in control of your life in 45 seconds, and you have that
Kellan Fluckiger:anytime you want. It may not feel like it, it may feel like
Kellan Fluckiger:things are pressing so hard that you can't. But unless you're
Kellan Fluckiger:threatened with a hurricane or imminent death, you have that
Kellan Fluckiger:ability. Now the other day I saw part of the special that was on
Kellan Fluckiger:TV about tsunamis. Okay, if a hurricane or a tsunami or some
Kellan Fluckiger:other terrifying thing is your world right this minute, then
Kellan Fluckiger:yeah, that's different. But often we interpret other events,
Kellan Fluckiger:financial issues, betrayal of someone, even someone dying as a
Kellan Fluckiger:tsunami, which threatens imminent physical death, and it
Kellan Fluckiger:doesn't. Even in the midst of emotional turmoil, slowing down
Kellan Fluckiger:for a moment is beneficial. And our bodies are wired that way it
Kellan Fluckiger:produces different neurotransmitters and brings us
Kellan Fluckiger:a sense of clarity, and calm. Why is that? That has to do with
Kellan Fluckiger:the first thing that I would give you, which is a true
Kellan Fluckiger:understanding of who you are. You're a divine being the spirit
Kellan Fluckiger:within you was created by the divine God, that is a fact you
Kellan Fluckiger:can call the name of that creation, whatever you want. You
Kellan Fluckiger:can associate that structure any way you want. But deep inside,
Kellan Fluckiger:you know that that's true. And sometimes we feel like we've
Kellan Fluckiger:been abandoned, and by that creator, and sometimes we feel
Kellan Fluckiger:like we've made so many mistakes, it's hopeless. And
Kellan Fluckiger:sometimes we may feel well, that's true for somebody else,
Kellan Fluckiger:but not us. None of those negative things are the real
Kellan Fluckiger:truth, it might feel like it for a moment, a way to get back to
Kellan Fluckiger:center is to maybe spend five minutes. breathing slowly, you
Kellan Fluckiger:can do box breathing, which is count to four really slowly
Kellan Fluckiger:breathing in, hold it for four at the top, and then breathe
Kellan Fluckiger:out. And the breathe out usually takes quite a bit longer than
Kellan Fluckiger:four. And I call it box breathing. It is called Box
Kellan Fluckiger:breathing. I didn't coined that term, because the idea is
Kellan Fluckiger:breathe out for and then hold for at the bottom with empty
Kellan Fluckiger:lungs. So either do that or take eight, a count of eight to
Kellan Fluckiger:breathe out that frame breathing in through your nose, holding it
Kellan Fluckiger:and breathing out slowly count of eight or a count of four and
Kellan Fluckiger:then holding it out. It will reset your metabolism and
Kellan Fluckiger:activates other nervous system elements. And it does things
Kellan Fluckiger:good for you. It reminds you of your true origin and possibility
Kellan Fluckiger:your divinity. Now, I want you to just answer this question
Kellan Fluckiger:honestly, if every moment of your day, you could remember the
Kellan Fluckiger:truth that you're created by God you're created to succeed.
Kellan Fluckiger:Everything you want is within your ability to create, yes, it
Kellan Fluckiger:takes work, but it's within your ability to create. If he could
Kellan Fluckiger:remember that in every frantic and difficult situation, how big
Kellan Fluckiger:is the difference that it would make? Well, for me, it's
Kellan Fluckiger:enormous. And I can promise you it will be enormous too. So
Kellan Fluckiger:that's why understanding your divinity is the first thing I
Kellan Fluckiger:give you. I talked a little bit longer about that than I meant
Kellan Fluckiger:to but we'll do that in another episode. The second thing I give
Kellan Fluckiger:you is optimism I titled this episode optimism is oxygen. And
Kellan Fluckiger:I did that first part because it plays into that those two are
Kellan Fluckiger:related. If you think you're worthless, and you can't do
Kellan Fluckiger:anything, and God somehow forgot you, or you are an accident or
Kellan Fluckiger:any of those negative things, it is really difficult to just
Kellan Fluckiger:crank up the optimism button and be, quote, optimistic, right?
Kellan Fluckiger:Yeah, that's hard. Because there's nothing behind it. It's
Kellan Fluckiger:a phony, sort of pretend. I'm not talking about fake it till
Kellan Fluckiger:you make it. So drop that idea. This is not fake it till you
Kellan Fluckiger:make it. It is slowing down enough to reconnect, reconnect
Kellan Fluckiger:with a fundamental truth. Here is that fundamental truth, no
Kellan Fluckiger:matter what is going on in your life, or how difficult or
Kellan Fluckiger:depressing or frustrating, it seems there is a way forward.
Kellan Fluckiger:There is a way up, and there is a way out. If you're in the
Kellan Fluckiger:middle, and stuck in average land and just kind of settling
Kellan Fluckiger:for mediocrity, there is a way up, there is a way out. There is
Kellan Fluckiger:a way to excellence, there is a way to owning a deep and
Kellan Fluckiger:meaningful life purpose that just Stokes your mind every day.
Kellan Fluckiger:There is a way to create the wealth you need to enjoy your
Kellan Fluckiger:life and to serve. There is a way to go from where you are at
Kellan Fluckiger:having absolute joy all day, every day. Now, there may be
Kellan Fluckiger:some of you who listen to this that already feel like you have
Kellan Fluckiger:joy every day all day. And I'm gonna give you a special
Kellan Fluckiger:invitation at the end because I want to meet you. And I want to
Kellan Fluckiger:feature your story in your processes here on the show.
Kellan Fluckiger:Anyway, optimism, what is it? Well, it's not fake, it's not
Kellan Fluckiger:Pollyanna, looking at things. It's not ignoring the truth.
Kellan Fluckiger:It's not pretending difficulties away. It is a simple choice. To
Kellan Fluckiger:believe that what I just said that there's always a way up,
Kellan Fluckiger:there's always a way out. At some people say glass half full,
Kellan Fluckiger:I say it more simply, there's got to be a way. There is a way
Kellan Fluckiger:to get through the situation. If you're having if you have a
Kellan Fluckiger:bankruptcy there is there's got to be a way through that. If you
Kellan Fluckiger:have a business that's failed, there's a way through it, maybe
Kellan Fluckiger:it's another business. Maybe it's through whatever
Kellan Fluckiger:restructuring needs to happen. Maybe it's through the valley of
Kellan Fluckiger:some hardship and some sacrifice. If a relationship
Kellan Fluckiger:fails, and someone has betrayed you, there is a way through
Kellan Fluckiger:this. There is a healthy, positive, powerful way through
Kellan Fluckiger:it. Now I'm not pretending away the stages of grief and loss,
Kellan Fluckiger:which anger denial, bargaining resignation, acceptance, that
Kellan Fluckiger:may be part of the process. But fundamentally agreeing with
Kellan Fluckiger:yourself believing choosing, there is a way that's optimism.
Kellan Fluckiger:The opposite is Pep pessimism where you say, I'm probably
Kellan Fluckiger:screwed. There's no way I'm dead, it's finished, and so
Kellan Fluckiger:forth. In that television special I saw about the tsunami.
Kellan Fluckiger:They interviewed several people from some of the great ones one
Kellan Fluckiger:in Indonesia, and a years ago, that killed so many people. And
Kellan Fluckiger:there were some people that were there, you know, doing the
Kellan Fluckiger:tourist thing, who said I thought I was dead. I thought I
Kellan Fluckiger:was done. I thought it was over. And yet there they are now later
Kellan Fluckiger:giving this interview and they made it. I'm not you know, I
Kellan Fluckiger:don't know what else happened. But I'm saying even when we
Kellan Fluckiger:think we're done, we're dead. We're finished. It's over.
Kellan Fluckiger:That's not true. Okay, so, an optimism is a choice to accept
Kellan Fluckiger:that fact. There's a way through, there's a way out,
Kellan Fluckiger:there's a way up. Now, sometimes what I used to do is I say okay,
Kellan Fluckiger:that's fine, there's a way out and there's way up, but it means
Kellan Fluckiger:that I'm stumbling along, I'll never do anything better, you
Kellan Fluckiger:know, etc. And usually that was combined with a bunch of self
Kellan Fluckiger:loathing which went like this. I've already screwed myself. I'm
Kellan Fluckiger:no good. I've made all these mistakes. Everybody hates me.
Kellan Fluckiger:You know, I've ruined my life and that sort of conversation,
Kellan Fluckiger:which is something we say emotionally when something
Kellan Fluckiger:terrible strikes us financially or in a relationship situation,
Kellan Fluckiger:or when we've made really serious mistakes. The truth is,
Kellan Fluckiger:that's how it feels right then. The other truth is there is a
Kellan Fluckiger:way up and there is a way out. So that's What optimism is, and
Kellan Fluckiger:the reason I say it's oxygen is because, you know, we can live
Kellan Fluckiger:for days without food weeks without food days without water,
Kellan Fluckiger:and just a few minutes without oxygen before we get brain
Kellan Fluckiger:damage and we're permanently toast. Optimism is like that you
Kellan Fluckiger:can survive for a very short time, with a totally dark point
Kellan Fluckiger:of view. No optimism, pessimism, assuming you're screwed. If you
Kellan Fluckiger:live there very long, it will damage you.
Kellan Fluckiger:The neurotransmitter cocktail that comes with a negative view
Kellan Fluckiger:of stuff, his poison, it's corrosive, it shortens your
Kellan Fluckiger:life, it destroys your creativity. It literally makes
Kellan Fluckiger:us stupid. We can't think straight we can't find ways
Kellan Fluckiger:through. So living in a place of negativity for very long isn't
Kellan Fluckiger:helpful. So what do you do? Well, this the questions that
Kellan Fluckiger:matter right now is okay, how do I get it? If optimism is like
Kellan Fluckiger:oxygen? Kellan? If that's true, what you're saying, and I'm
Kellan Fluckiger:telling you that it is, what do I do? How do I get it? So let's
Kellan Fluckiger:spend the rest of this episode talking about different ways
Kellan Fluckiger:that you can go from a disaster to something positive? How do
Kellan Fluckiger:you get optimism. So let me tell you some stories about people
Kellan Fluckiger:that I know and some of them are about me. But these are people
Kellan Fluckiger:who have been in a disastrous situation. So I have a friend
Kellan Fluckiger:who was in a situation where they were considering you know,
Kellan Fluckiger:that maybe the world would be better off without them driving
Kellan Fluckiger:down the freeway, maybe they should just drive into a
Kellan Fluckiger:concrete pillar at high speed, because you know, their family
Kellan Fluckiger:and others would be better off without him. That individual
Kellan Fluckiger:today is optimistic, powerful. And in the midst of creating a
Kellan Fluckiger:very, very successful company that's going to be worth
Kellan Fluckiger:staggering sums, at least nine and even perhaps 10 fingers. So
Kellan Fluckiger:how did that happen? That person made two choices. One, to not
Kellan Fluckiger:drive into a pillar, not because they had a flash of light or
Kellan Fluckiger:some magical thing happened, but just, you know what, I'm just
Kellan Fluckiger:not going to do that. It would be disappointing. Maybe it's
Kellan Fluckiger:really cowardly. I'm not going to do that. So that was the
Kellan Fluckiger:first thing. And the second thing was, I'm going to keep
Kellan Fluckiger:trying. Not, I'm gonna try, oh, but you know what, I'm going to
Kellan Fluckiger:keep trying. That was a spark of optimism, even the tonality of
Kellan Fluckiger:I'm going to keep trying. And what was that look like? What
Kellan Fluckiger:did that look like? Well, they ended up spending some time
Kellan Fluckiger:talking to their mate, about this particular situation. They
Kellan Fluckiger:went and talked to other folks, religious folks, they talked to,
Kellan Fluckiger:they got a coach, they talked, they were willing to be
Kellan Fluckiger:vulnerable and talk about this. And then take action on the
Kellan Fluckiger:conversation, who's not a lot of good that comes if you just talk
Kellan Fluckiger:about some and complain. And we've all been in situations
Kellan Fluckiger:where maybe we, maybe you, maybe me, or others are there just to
Kellan Fluckiger:bitch and get your right a world is so terrible, they all suck.
Kellan Fluckiger:There's not a lot of benefit from that. But if you go to a
Kellan Fluckiger:place where you expect to be listened to fully and
Kellan Fluckiger:completely, and then you expect to get and listen to yourself
Kellan Fluckiger:some feedback about possibilities. Not a bunch of
Kellan Fluckiger:you need to do this. And you should do that. Forget that. But
Kellan Fluckiger:just some feedback and possibilities. Now those two
Kellan Fluckiger:things went hand in hand. One, I'm not going to end it. And
Kellan Fluckiger:two, I am going to keep going there's got to be something and
Kellan Fluckiger:then taking actions to go find the something and being open to
Kellan Fluckiger:that. So that finding something it could be a therapist, I've
Kellan Fluckiger:done a lot of that. It could be a coach, it could be both I've
Kellan Fluckiger:done all of those things. It could be a spouse or mate, I've
Kellan Fluckiger:done that also, depending on your situation, but the key that
Kellan Fluckiger:is important is to go don't don't swim and spiral inside
Kellan Fluckiger:yourself. Because that is a recipe to spiral down and out.
Kellan Fluckiger:Okay, so that's one way to get optimism. Another way to get
Kellan Fluckiger:optimism is to end isolation. Okay, the COVID that we just had
Kellan Fluckiger:a few years ago now was very isolating and it you know,
Kellan Fluckiger:increased instances of mental illness and people struggling
Kellan Fluckiger:and feeling that isolation and all that sort of thing. I am on
Kellan Fluckiger:a platform online called Lunch Club and have been for a few
Kellan Fluckiger:years. And it's fun. I've had as many as three meetings a week. I
Kellan Fluckiger:do less than that now, one a week. But I get I got to meet
Kellan Fluckiger:people all over the world. And one of the questions I always
Kellan Fluckiger:ask, and I've now had 400, and something, people 400 And
Kellan Fluckiger:something people I've met, from all over the world, people from
Kellan Fluckiger:Turkey and South America and North America, of course, and
Kellan Fluckiger:America and us, sorry, American us, same thing, Canada, and you
Kellan Fluckiger:just all over the place. And I've met one from Moscow, and
Kellan Fluckiger:one from Azerbaijan. Anyway, all over the all over the world,
Kellan Fluckiger:several from India, and just tons of people. Now, what does
Kellan Fluckiger:that have to do with optimism? You know, what I asked, I always
Kellan Fluckiger:ask, why are you on lunch club? And I asked it for two reasons.
Kellan Fluckiger:One, I've read their bio, you put a little bio in and so
Kellan Fluckiger:forth. So I know what they do. But my question is, why are you
Kellan Fluckiger:on lunch club, and you could be thinking while they're doing it
Kellan Fluckiger:to, you know, network and find clients, you know what most
Kellan Fluckiger:people said, I'm doing it just to meet people. I'm doing it
Kellan Fluckiger:because I want to reach out, I want to enlarge my circle. I
Kellan Fluckiger:want to see different people from all over the place. Man, he
Kellan Fluckiger:mentioned COVID. You know, COVID was so isolating, I just wanted
Kellan Fluckiger:to reach out. Isn't that interesting? This wasn't
Kellan Fluckiger:therapy. And this wasn't anything like that. It was just
Kellan Fluckiger:the human need that we have to connect. So there is another
Kellan Fluckiger:thing that you can do to create optimism. Now, if you go places
Kellan Fluckiger:where everybody's bitching and moaning, then that's not very
Kellan Fluckiger:optimistic. But if you go there intending to find hope and
Kellan Fluckiger:optimism, you can do that there are hundreds 1000s, even
Kellan Fluckiger:millions of meetup groups and so forth, where you can do both you
Kellan Fluckiger:can network for business, and you can meet people, this does
Kellan Fluckiger:mean you have to make a choice, to put yourself out there and to
Kellan Fluckiger:be connected and visit with people. If that's a scary thing
Kellan Fluckiger:for you, then there's another piece of help, which is learn
Kellan Fluckiger:how to network, learn how to and here's the biggest key learn how
Kellan Fluckiger:to love yourself. So you can entertain the possibility that
Kellan Fluckiger:there are people who do want to meet you, and would like to talk
Kellan Fluckiger:to you and would enjoy a conversation. There are so many
Kellan Fluckiger:online platforms that are not dating or any kind of
Kellan Fluckiger:entanglement that are just designed to for people to
Kellan Fluckiger:connect and chat in positive ways, and lunch clubs when I use
Kellan Fluckiger:but there are others. So that's another place to create
Kellan Fluckiger:optimism. The most powerful thing that I've done to create
Kellan Fluckiger:optimism is some is the personal development work. I've read, I
Kellan Fluckiger:don't know how many 100 books. But reading the books didn't
Kellan Fluckiger:help. The most important thing was to go back to that first
Kellan Fluckiger:thing that I said I give you, which is get a true view of
Kellan Fluckiger:myself. Realize, choose to believe that I'm a I'm a son of
Kellan Fluckiger:God. So are you are a daughter, you are a son or daughter of
Kellan Fluckiger:God, doesn't matter what you've done, you can't change that. So
Kellan Fluckiger:I can say that and have it mean nothing. Or I can just sit with
Kellan Fluckiger:that possibility. And sit with that truth until I allow it to
Kellan Fluckiger:change me. And that action, taken over time, regularly
Kellan Fluckiger:became a powerful change, for me, brought me the oxygen and
Kellan Fluckiger:the optimism that I needed. So just acknowledging who I was,
Kellan Fluckiger:was just the beginning, I've created a whole document. And
Kellan Fluckiger:I'm not going to go over that here. But I'll give you the
Kellan Fluckiger:book, the book is living with purpose and power. Living with
Kellan Fluckiger:purpose and power. There's a very specific, clear process, to
Kellan Fluckiger:create optimism to understand who you are. And to get really
Kellan Fluckiger:connected with that. Get on Amazon living with purpose and
Kellan Fluckiger:power. You know why? It is so worth it when you get up and
Kellan Fluckiger:realize that you're the only you, you're the best you you
Kellan Fluckiger:matter. And there are people that are just dying to meet you.
Kellan Fluckiger:It changes your perspective. And it does it every single day, not
Kellan Fluckiger:once in a while not in some fake HYPEE way.
Kellan Fluckiger:The next thing I want to talk about that really brings you
Kellan Fluckiger:optimism is to choose to practice gratitude. Now you've
Kellan Fluckiger:heard lots of people talk about that gratitude is one of the
Kellan Fluckiger:highest vibrating emotions if you want to use the vibrational
Kellan Fluckiger:sort of thing. It's right up there with creativity and
Kellan Fluckiger:compassion and kindness and love way up at the top of the human
Kellan Fluckiger:emotion spectrum. So what is gratitude? Well, I was
Kellan Fluckiger:introduced to And when I started my personal development journey
Kellan Fluckiger:in earnest in 2007, I was introduced to gratitude with the
Kellan Fluckiger:phrase of rampage of appreciation. And that was to
Kellan Fluckiger:take, you know, five minutes and list as many things as you
Kellan Fluckiger:possibly can, that you're grateful for. And of course, the
Kellan Fluckiger:temptation is to be silly, you know, for the lawn, and for the
Kellan Fluckiger:shoe that fits, okay, and for the knife that I eat my,
Kellan Fluckiger:buttered my bread with and, and then also some real things, my
Kellan Fluckiger:partner and my business and the clients that I have, and the
Kellan Fluckiger:fact that I can breathe and so forth. But the practice was to
Kellan Fluckiger:do it as fast as you could, as many as you could. I found that
Kellan Fluckiger:to be useful, but it had real limitations. So let me give you
Kellan Fluckiger:another gratitude practice that will change your life, you have
Kellan Fluckiger:had situations where you were absolutely grateful where
Kellan Fluckiger:something happened. That just made you almost weak awash with
Kellan Fluckiger:an emotion of gratitude, or something didn't happen, you
Kellan Fluckiger:expected some bad thing to happen, and it didn't. And you
Kellan Fluckiger:experience a visceral and physical response of just relief
Kellan Fluckiger:and gratitude at the same time. So you know what that feels
Kellan Fluckiger:like. And I'll tell you how to create it. Pick something that
Kellan Fluckiger:you're grateful for, for me, a really easy one is my precious
Kellan Fluckiger:Angel wife joy, who saved my soul saved my life. And the
Kellan Fluckiger:story's amazing, and so forth, but not for today. What I do is
Kellan Fluckiger:I think about her, I think about her face, I think about her
Kellan Fluckiger:voice, I think about the things that she has done with me. And
Kellan Fluckiger:for me, I think about how she shows up in my life every day.
Kellan Fluckiger:And she's consistent. And just, you know, I just think about
Kellan Fluckiger:him, and I stay thinking about them, I don't just pass over
Kellan Fluckiger:once, Okay, done, I stay engaged in the conversation with myself,
Kellan Fluckiger:I bring my mind back again, and again and again. And you know
Kellan Fluckiger:what happens after a minute or two, those sensations of
Kellan Fluckiger:physical gratitude come in the body, I begin to experience that
Kellan Fluckiger:rush of beautiful emotion associated with gratitude. So
Kellan Fluckiger:you can do that. And you may or may not be your partner, you may
Kellan Fluckiger:be grateful for your breath, for the fact that your body can
Kellan Fluckiger:breathe, that that inhalation goes in your lungs, and then
Kellan Fluckiger:that oxygen power goes all the way through you, out of your
Kellan Fluckiger:lungs and into your bloodstream and a whole the way down to your
Kellan Fluckiger:toes and your fingers in the into your brain to flooded with
Kellan Fluckiger:ideas and so forth. You might be grateful for your digestive
Kellan Fluckiger:tract that you can eat and be nourished and be healthy and be
Kellan Fluckiger:okay. You might be grateful for clients that you have now. And
Kellan Fluckiger:when you're going to do this, do it slow. Slow is the key not
Kellan Fluckiger:fast. And only pick one or two things and just marinate in
Kellan Fluckiger:them. And you can think I'm nuts, okay? I don't care. But I
Kellan Fluckiger:can make you a promise that if you marinate in something you're
Kellan Fluckiger:truly grateful for it will change your chemistry, it will
Kellan Fluckiger:change your mind it will change your life. And it will put you
Kellan Fluckiger:right up at the top of the ladder of consciousness right up
Kellan Fluckiger:there next to love and compassion and creativity and
Kellan Fluckiger:generosity and beauty. Right up there next to this beautiful
Kellan Fluckiger:picture behind me right up there in the land of optimism and
Kellan Fluckiger:you'll be flooded with oxygen and oxytocin and other good
Kellan Fluckiger:things. So optimism is oxygen, I challenge you, I invite you to
Kellan Fluckiger:participate, to give yourself that oxygen choose optimism just
Kellan Fluckiger:because you can. Now I told you earlier, if you are a person
Kellan Fluckiger:who's doing this regularly, I invite you most sincerely to do
Kellan Fluckiger:something reach out to me. Because if you've achieved that
Kellan Fluckiger:then you are also a person who wants to add good to the world
Kellan Fluckiger:who is busy doing good serving, helping, lifting blessing. You
Kellan Fluckiger:are the kind of person I want on the show here. You have overcome
Kellan Fluckiger:whatever your challenges were. Now if you're on the way there I
Kellan Fluckiger:also want you if you've made a choice, regardless of your past
Kellan Fluckiger:challenges, I'm going I'm going I want you I want to feature you
Kellan Fluckiger:I'd like to have you here why? Because I want you to have a
Kellan Fluckiger:larger reach for your story, your story, my story. It only
Kellan Fluckiger:matters when we share it. And we lift and bless others so I'm
Kellan Fluckiger:inviting inviting you to get a hold of me and let's connect.
Kellan Fluckiger:Thank you for being with me today. You're an amazing person.
Kellan Fluckiger:You are a divine being. You can create anything you want. And I
Kellan Fluckiger:say that every episode and I will continue to do that. You
Kellan Fluckiger:can create your own optimism it does not depend on external
Kellan Fluckiger:circumstances. It does not depend on anything outside of
Kellan Fluckiger:you. You have the power to create your life right here
Kellan Fluckiger:right now. And not just any old life, not just the average
Kellan Fluckiger:mediocre life, not just the I'll barely get by life, but you have
Kellan Fluckiger:the power to create your ultimate life. Your heart
Joy Fluckiger:thank you for listening to today's episode. We
Joy Fluckiger:hope that you take it deeply into your heart and decide for
Joy Fluckiger:yourself how you can create anything you desire. If you like
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Joy Fluckiger:and topic suggestions until tomorrow. This is your ultimate
Joy Fluckiger:life with host Kellan Fluckiger.
