Rise to the Prize: Unleashing Your Potential and Achieving Your Dreams, ep 899

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Welcome to your ultimate life. This

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background and again, I hope you're watching the video. I say

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that every time, but I really mean it, because I picked the

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backgrounds to be valuable. This background is a picture of a

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karate or jujitsu or other martial art kung fu dojo. Dojo

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depends on what style you practice and all that sort of

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thing. But it's a place of work, and you can see this symbol on

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the wall. You can see the hardwood floor. Can see the

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heavy bags hanging and I love that. Today's episode is about,

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right? It's called Rise to the prize. Rise to the prize, right?

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And there's so many things that have happened this summer. I'm

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recording this in the summer of 24 I don't know when you're

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going to listen to it, but there's so many things that have

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happened this summer that illustrate this point of rising

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up, of making choices that get you to the place you want to be.

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And hey, so what are you doing this summer? I have a question.

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Let's start there. What are you doing this summer? So right

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after we record this next week, we're going to spend a week, a

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little more week and a half or so, over on Vancouver Island.

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Now I live in Edmonton, Alberta, which is, you know, the frozen

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north. There's seven or eight, several 100 miles north of

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Montana. And I measured it once when we lived in Phoenix. It's

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1800 miles due north of Phoenix. I used to joke, if you drew a

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line between Phoenix and Santa Claus, you go through my front

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yard. We moved up here in 2016 so eight years ago, as I record

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this to take take care of my wife's mother, who was, is 92 be

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93 in September. She was eight years ago, 84 or 85 then, and

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was still living by herself and getting along okay, but, you

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know, needing to have a lot of help getting the doctor's

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appointments and those kinds of things. And Joy's brother lives

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up here, but he didn't really want to participate in that. So

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we moved up here to do that because, you know, I our our

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view is, you don't put your parents in old folks homes, or

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you don't put them somewhere unless it's so bad you have no

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choice. In other words, you don't have the chops or the

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facilities to take care of them. And most, most folks, as they

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get older, aren't that bad. They could be taken care of anyway.

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That's just my personal view. My own mother is almost the same

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age. She's 90. Oh, let's see she'll be 90. No, that's not

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true. 91 391. In September, enjoys mom b, 93 so there's a

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couple of years difference. But anyway, there's my sister. My

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older sister is living with her mother, my mother, as she ages

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and needs a lot of care, etc, etc. So to me, that's just what

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you do, and you can agree or disagree. It doesn't matter, but

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that's why we moved up here. Anyway. I spent a lot of years

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in karate, karate, right Tang, sudo and shooty Tay, which is

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Okinawan, old style, and different styles, different

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places, and spent a lot of time there, and I learned a lot of

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respect, a lot of hard work. I did a lot of things that I never

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thought I could do in the process. And I did some

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competition, and not a ton, but I did some competition and

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actually won a couple things in the years that I did it. What I

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learned most from that is the work and the discipline and the

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focus that it takes to achieve those things. Now, just like

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everything, there's hard schools and there's easy schools.

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There's in academics, there's hard schools and there's easy

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schools. In any school, there's hard teachers and easy teachers.

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Funny, when I was in university and I was a mathematics major, I

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had a math scholarship. I took a class the university had about

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25,000 you know, mid, mid, large university, about 25,000

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students. And in that population of 25 there was only one one

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section offered of this particular math class. And in

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that math class are only 25 students, so only one in 1000

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students takes, you know, this kind of advanced mathematics.

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And it was, it was very difficult. It was a very

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challenging class, and the teacher was very challenging.

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And the reason I mentioned that as an example is because it was

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funny. Think about your own college or post grad days where,

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you know, we asked him, you know, does the final is it going

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to take all three hours? And he looked at us and said, at least.

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I. A lot, and we're like, oh, man, heart sank, you know, that

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kind of thing. And it was a really tough class. And I

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studied, and I did okay. I ended up with a B plus in that class,

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and there was no A's, it was one other B plus, and the rest of

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the 23 went down from there. So he was a tough class, tough

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grader. And everything my point in saying that is just, it's

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another example of making a choice about rising to the

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prize. I wanted to do good, so I put in extra time and extra

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effort. When I did martial arts, I was, you know, a bit of a

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fanatic. I put in extra time, extra effort. I worked out at

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home a lot, some not always, but sometimes every day, and

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sometimes twice a day. Uh, many times twice a day. If you count

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the days I went to the dojo, and there were a lot of days. There

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were a lot of those too. So that's the reason I put this up.

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Rise to the prize. Now I mentioned this summer we're

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we're going to Vancouver Island, we're eventually going to move

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there. We've been going to do it the last two or three summers,

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and it hasn't worked out the last this summer, and last

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summer, it's not working because our Ukrainian family, the mom,

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is in the middle of applying for a permanent resident card and

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changing, changing where she lives is not, you know, doesn't

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help with that, and there was no crush for us to go, except we

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weren't dying to spend another freezing cold winter here, but

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we're going to. And so here we are, but we love the week 10

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days, or 11 days or something that we're going to spend over

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there. This summer has been the summer of performance, the

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summer of amazing things. Wimbledon was this summer, and

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we watched a bit of this and that, and a youngster beat

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Djokovic. Djokovic, sorry, Djokovic again. Beat him last

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year. And you know, Djokovic is in his late 30s, and so he's on

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his way out, and this new guy, Alcaraz, is on his way up. And,

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you know, will cherish this second victory over over

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Djokovic. There was also the Copa Cup, which is the North,

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South American, Central American, you know, the Americas

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Cup. I think it happens every two years. And not surprisingly,

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Argentina won that. Messi is the, I think, the best player in

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the world right now, at the same time overlapping, there was the

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Euro Cup and that I was interesting, and Spain was

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victorious there. And you know what's funny, I never paid

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attention to soccer much, and about my wife and as a fanatic

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and really follows it. So in our marriage, now almost 17 years,

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I've become not only acclimated, but interested, and I know some

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of the players and can follow it. And the other thing that's

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happened is hockey. She's gotten me interested in hockey. I

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didn't even know what I mean. I knew kind of what it was, but

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didn't know anything about playing. In the first games I

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watched of hockey, I could not follow the puck. You know, it

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was Things were moving too fast, and I didn't know what was going

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where now, of course, I can and enjoyed it this last year. It

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ended in June, Edmonton, our city, got to the finals. Who

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Edmonton Oilers got to the finals and lost in seven games.

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It was quite a quite a ride, that final series. On top of

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that, there's the yearly version of the Tour de France, and that

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happened this summer. And I don't know who took the yellow

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jersey there. We used to watch that off and on pretty

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religiously, but then they changed how it was available.

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So, you know, I couldn't find it. She couldn't find it. Wasn't

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worth subscribing to a set of new this, that, and the other,

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besides that, all the rest of that stuff that was going on.

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And then we're capping it off with the Olympics. The Olympics

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are haven't started yet, as I record this, but by the time you

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see it, they will be done. And the Olympics is the place where

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people literally rise to the prize. They put effort and

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energy. And one of the things I like about the Olympics, and

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more than the events themselves, is the stories about the people

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and Olympics, the movie Cool Runnings, about the Jamaican

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bobsled team that took place in the 88 Olympics in Winter

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Olympics in Calgary, Alberta. Well, Calgary is just three

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hours south of here, and that big tower that they have, and

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you know, the Olympic Park is still there and runs in the

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winter time. And you know, people use it for skiing and

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stuff. It's not a particularly difficult mountain. And we're

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Calgary is close to Banff and some of the most beautiful ski

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resorts in the world are, you know, Lake Louise and sunshine

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and Mount Doom. It's called Mount Norway, but I always call

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it Mount Doom. Seems like every year somebody dies on the front

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run on that called Lone Pine. Anyway, it doesn't matter. The

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point is, all of these things are happening where people have

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made. Decision in their lives to rise to the prize. They've made

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a decision to do the work that it takes. They made a decision

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that no matter what is in the way, and like I said, the

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Olympics, I love them because it's it's a treat to hear about

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the stories. There was one Olympics where, you know, they

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told the story of a, I think it was a skeleton race, which is

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crazy, right? You lay face forward on a very low sled, and,

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you know, it is all just one person on a very low sled, on an

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icy run, like a bobsled kind of thing. And man speeds are

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incredible. Accidents are deadly anyway. So one year, a few years

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ago, I don't know if it was the last winter Olympics, it might

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have been in 2000 what would that have been 2020 but anyway,

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about a lady who, you know, told her effort, and she'd been to

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the Olympics before, and this was going to be her last one,

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and she had kids, and told about the story of her family and her

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husband supporting her and getting up at Oh Dark 30, you

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know, to to practice and practice and practice. And this

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time that Olympics, she won the silver medal. So she did place,

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placed on the podium, fulfilled a lifelong dream, couldn't quite

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get the gold, but still, a silver medalist in the Olympics,

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in any sport is awe inspiring forever, right? So I want to ask

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you, and I ask myself this all the time. Kellan, do you rise to

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the prize? We've got examples all around us, and I just listed

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a whole bunch of sporting events. But you know, sports

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isn't the only thing I notice. Tell us is a telephone company

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up here. No kidding. Tell us, telephone right? One of the big

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ones. And they have, they sponsor all kinds of creative

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stuff, filmmaking things and indigenous, which is native, you

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know, filmmaking classes and courses and competitions. And

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they give some pretty significant money, 10,000 25,000

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I even think I saw something that was $200,000 I don't know,

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but at least I know for sure I saw 25 and a 10 and more than

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one of them to different groups of people to encourage their

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creativity, to do what, to rise to the prize, to get the

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obstacles out of the way of doing what you want to do in

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Your heart. So where do you want to be now all the sporting

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examples are done. I gave those film examples which are telling

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local stories, stories of local people, the Alberta stories,

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Edmonton stories about different people and topics. And the field

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was wide open. One of the interesting things that takes

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place in Edmonton every August is the Fringe Festival. Now, I

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didn't know what a Fringe Festival was 10 years ago, just

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I don't know why. I just didn't there's the largest Fringe

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Festival in the world is in Edinburgh, Scotland. The second

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largest Fringe Festival in the world is here in Edmonton,

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Alberta, like, Who would have thought? And for a week or 10

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days, there are drama productions, you know, there are

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plays, there are stand up, there's performers of all kinds,

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there's musicians, and they call it a Fringe Festival, because

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it's, you know, it's out there stuff, right? You know what I

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love about that, the courage and commitment. Those are two

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completely different things. Courage is the ability, the

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willingness to do something in the face of difficulty or fear.

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One definition, I understand, there's many, but in the face of

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difficulty or fear, when it would seem easy or not, to etc,

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etc, choosing to do something because you believe it's right.

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That's real courage, and that's one thing that it takes to get

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up and submit yourself to an audience. Number one, you don't

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know how many people are going to come to your audience.

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There's venues in that Fringe Festival all over the place,

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around white Ave. White Ave is kind of the hip place in

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Edmonton. It's a few miles long, and it's lined with, you know,

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cafes and that kind of stuff, eclectic shops. And you can buy

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stuff there. You can't buy other places, things like fluvog

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shoes. I don't know if you've ever heard of that, but John

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fluvag, he makes weird shoes. Okay? He has a shop on there, or

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he did. I bought a couple pairs of shoes there. Why? Because I

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do that anyway. Along that of North and South, all over

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there's all these venues where people come to perform, to play

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their trade, their music, or their drama or their poetry. Day

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or whatever. And there's all kinds of them. It goes on for

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about 10 days, and you can get tickets to all these and see all

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kinds of crazy stuff. Here's the interesting thing, the courage

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that it takes to do that is the same courage for you or for me,

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to rise to the prize, the commitment is separate, which

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is, how bad do I want to do a good job? How bad do I want to

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do it? Well, I carry a piece of paper in my wallet, and it

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simply has the words, how bad written on it, and it is there

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to remind me at any time I pull it out, how bad do I want

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something? I've made lots of goals, as I'm sure you have.

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Where do you want to be? What is your Olympics, last event, or

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last episode, I talked about, what is your Olympic event? And

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this is really talking about the courage and commitment it takes

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to get there, and this is your encouragement. I spend a lot of

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my life living someone else's life, someone else's script,

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someone else's direction, trying to prove myself. And I'm sure

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you know the drill. Maybe you've done some of that, or a lot,

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being a people pleaser, trying to prove something, get stamps

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on your forehead of approved. It's one thing to get done with

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that, to declare your independence and say, I'm going

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to live my own life. It's quite another thing to then say, Okay,

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what is that life? What is that life about and that doesn't come

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easy. It's hard to figure out what you want your life to be

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about, especially if you've lived a long time doing what

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you're supposed to do or following just the norms. Now

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I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the norm, whatever

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that is. You know, grow up, get an education, get a job, maybe

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have a family, you know, make a lot of money, do whatever,

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that's fine. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with

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that. But you know what I know? I know that most people are

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unhappy with that surveys indicate anywhere between 7070,

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sorry, and 85 people. 85% of people are unhappy in their

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jobs, and the reasons most often given are it's not fulfilling.

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Interestingly enough, it's not I don't get paid enough. It's not

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that. Most common reason is I'm not happy now I was that I

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worked for 30 years in a career. Doesn't matter what it was I

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did. Well, I raised to got, you know, got up to executive

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positions and made good money, but I was not happy my life, my

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personal life, is a wreck. And I did a lot of things that, you

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know, I've had to fix and, you know, go to rehab and do a bunch

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of stuff for so what at any given moment today, you can

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decide I'm going to forge the path where my heart is calling.

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You can decide that. You can decide it today. Now, often

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people make a bunch of excuses. I have kids, I have obligations,

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I have family, I don't have time. Nonsense. I call bullshit

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on all of it. All that means is, if you have a set of commitments

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that you've already made, and you're going to keep them now,

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some people walk away from them. And I'm not saying go do that.

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What I am saying is, if you're going to keep them, you can also

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:18:36

create time and energy and a ramp and a path to get to your

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:18:40

prize. What is your prize after I left that 30 year career in

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:18:46

2007 which has now been 17 years. I've spent these 17 years

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:18:52

figuring out what my prize was after I had all the work and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:18:58

help for the first three or four years to clean up my own act.

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You know, that was necessary for me to even decide what the prize

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was. So maybe you need some help. Maybe you need a lot of

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:19:10

work to clean up. I don't know what even that means, but to

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make repairs, to clean up your act. You know, crap from the

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past, I had a pile of that, and I made it bigger by carrying

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around guilt, shame and all the rest of the nonsense. And so it

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:19:26

was really slow going for a while, but after a few years, I

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was able to do that. Then I could really focus on Okay, now

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that I have cleaned that up the best I can. And interestingly

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:19:39

enough, you don't need anyone's permission to clean it up, you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:19:42

do the best you can with what you know and what you have to

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:19:44

clean it up if you need to. I'm not even saying you need to, but

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I sure did. Okay, so what? Then it's not just about that. It's

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:19:55

about making your own choices. If you weren't happy. What? Make

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you happy. I wrestled with that. I didn't know. I just didn't

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know because my mind and thoughts were so full of what I

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:08

was supposed to do and all the contamination. So I finally,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:12

finally, but I wouldn't give up. Now that's one of my

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:15

characteristics, is I never quit, never, never, never,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:18

never, never. I go slow, I fall on my face, I get sidetracked

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:23

all kinds of stuff, but I don't quit. So I kept moving along,

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sometimes slow, sometimes fast, and I finally realized that the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:31

story of my life, it's pain, it's destructions, it's

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:38

creations, the recovery, the growth. That story was a

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:44

powerful story. It became my mission, then to share the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:50

things I learned in that journey or on that journey with others

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:20:57

that might benefit so as I made my own growth path with all the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:02

help I needed, counselors and coaches and all kinds of stuff,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:05

I realized, wow, this journey should be documented and shared.

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So that's what I've done. That's why I've written 20 books. I'm

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:13

on my 20th, 19 books, with number 20 underway, and created

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:17

this podcast and La talk radio and all the rest. So my question

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to you is, what is your prize? Where do you want to go? Now I

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:27

have a method, a system called the triple helix, to help people

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:31

find it, to examine your skills, that you have, what you've been

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:34

selling in the marketplace, the jobs you've had, the work you've

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:37

done. What are your natural gifts? What has your life

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:40

experience taught you often the most painful and difficult

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things, but when you look at it for tools and learnings and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:48

power, you'll find them, I promise. So in the process, I

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:52

take people through to get that you can find your most effective

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:21:57

offering, your most effective passion, the thing you want to

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do, it calls you, it draws you, it yanks on you. But even though

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:07

you feel that, you have to choose it. Okay, I know I feel

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:11

it. I know I feel it. I'm scared. I don't know. I don't

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:13

know how blah, blah, blah, blah. I don't care if I don't know

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:15

anything. I'm choosing it. That's the thing. Courage and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:20

commitment to rise to the prize. So what I decided in that

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:26

initial growth process of three or four years is I wanted to be

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:30

of service. I didn't want to get another job and create another

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:34

career, except I wanted to be in the people encouragement

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:38

business. I wanted to be a beacon of light, a vessel of

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:42

love, a conduit of power, a champion of hope. I have a

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:46

client who calls herself a hope dealer. I love it. I wanted to

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:50

do that. I yearned. I ached, because as I saw the changes

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:55

that happened to me, I thought, I know I can help people with

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:22:59

that are struggling like I was, doesn't have to be with the same

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:02

things, but the same feelings of worthlessness, of powerlessness,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:06

of, you know, people pleasing. I'll never get there. I'm living

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:10

some other script you can dump that. That's what your ultimate

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:13

life's all about. If you haven't been to www, dot, your Ultimate

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:18

life.ca. Go right now. Www, dot, your Ultimate life.ca. There's

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:24

stuff there that costs no money. Five master keys to creating

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:30

your ultimate life. People say ultimate all the time these

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:33

days, which is like, Yeah, whatever, some other stupid

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:35

buzzword. But the truth is, I have walked that road. I now

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:42

live a life of purpose, prosperity and joy, coming from

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:48

a place of everything, 100% the opposite. I've helped many

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:52

people do the same. My mission this year is to help 250 million

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:23:57

people. Wow. What a number, right? Realize who they really

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:02

are, who you really are, a Divine Being with infinite

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:05

capability that no matter where you've been or what's come

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:08

before, it's never too late to matter greatly and have big

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:13

impact if you want to do that now, if you don't want to do

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:16

that, this is the wrong show for you, because my show, my

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:20

encouragement is for people who say, I've had enough of the old

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:24

I know where those road goes, where those excuses go. I know

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:27

it. I hate it. I'm done. Here's how you rise to the prize. You

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:33

have to decide you're going. Someone doesn't casually say,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:37

Yeah, I'm gonna, I think maybe I'll try to go to the Olympics.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:41

They pick a year, they pick a program or a sport, and they go

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:48

to work. Nobody accidentally fell up a mountain. Nobody

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:53

actually accidentally won Wimbledon. They picked a thing

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:24:58

and went after it. So if you want to. Rise to the prize. You

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:01

got to figure out what is your prize? I am honestly not amazed

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:08

anymore, but in the first years of my coaching work, I was

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:11

completely amazed at the number of people that couldn't answer

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:14

this question, what do you want? Like, what do you really want?

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:17

First answers, money. Freedom, fine. Assume you have all the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:21

money you need. No one has any call on one minute of your time.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:26

Who are you? Because vacationing and sitting on the beach and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:31

doing nothing forever gets boring fast. I can tell you that

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:36

it's boring and it doesn't fulfill you any more than a job

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:40

you hate, or a relationship where you're being taken

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:44

advantage of, or something like that, those are damaging. So is

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:47

doing nothing that isn't fulfilling? It might seem like

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:51

it right now, and it's hectic and you got too much to do and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:53

you're going, I can promise you it's not fulfilling. So when you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:25:59

get past all that. What do you want when I get with people and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:05

I'd love to talk to you. So this is an invitation. This is an

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:10

invitation. I'm inviting you to connect with me so we can have a

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:12

conversation about your ultimate life, about your most effective

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:16

offering, your triple helix, the thing you are passionate about

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:20

that you want to do in the world. Love to do that with

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:23

you've never been able to, I've never, not found that people

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:28

say, Oh, I don't know what I want to do. And never is never

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:31

happens if we do the work together anyway. So where do you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:37

want to be when people talk about you can say, Oh yeah,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:41

she's the gal that what I know, what I want people to say. He's

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:48

the guy that is always encouraging. He can help me do

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:51

anything. He always listens. He has power to help me lift my

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:26:57

eyes, my sight, my heart, and go at it again so I get where I'm

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:02

going. That's, you know, that kind of language I want that to

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:07

be spoken in the dark when I'm not there. Because it's true.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:12

What do you want the truth of your soul to be Now, when you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:16

think about that, and I challenge you to take the time

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:19

to do that, why are you not there right now? Like, why is

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:26

that not already true? And I don't mean someone saying, Well,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:30

you know, they're a nice person, nice guy, nice gal. That awesome

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:36

thing you want etched on the memory of your life on your

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:40

tombstone or something I don't know, that really defined you.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:45

How come you're not doing that right now? What's in the way

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:49

keeping you from being, having, exploring, expressing that fully

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:54

as an artist or an author or a business owner or an

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:27:58

entrepreneur or a parent or a visionary? If you are not right

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:04

this minute, living to your fullest extent all the love and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:08

passion you can enjoy, you can have every single day, I want to

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:12

know why not. And more importantly than me knowing you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:17

need to know why not. Because until we know why we're not

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:21

doing it right now. It's hard to change things

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:26

now, after you decide, well, I'm not there because and the list

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:30

may be long and often our list points outward, but none of

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:33

those things matter. Nothing outside of you matters. What

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:37

people think of you as, none of your business. The barriers and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:40

obstacles outside of you are none of your they're not none of

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:43

your business, but you can't control them. Okay? You can get

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:47

out of situations and so forth. But those aren't the big

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:50

barriers. The big barriers are the ones inside. What you think

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:53

about yourself, what you believe about yourself, what you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:56

perceive about your opportunity. I'm too late. It's it's too

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:28:59

late. I'm too old. It's to whatever. I don't have enough

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:02

money. I can't I don't know how all that stuff is, the real

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:07

barriers, the stuff that you believe about you that's

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:12

different than your divine nature with infinite

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:15

possibility. And I use infinite carefully. I don't use it just

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:19

to say some big word you really do. You're created by God, so

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:23

you have infinite capability. And I had to ask myself that a

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:28

lot, why am I not using it? Why am I not doing this? And that

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:31

was the starting place for growth. So when you think about

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:35

where you really want to be, who you really want to be, how you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:38

want to show up in life every day, and what you want to be

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:42

true about your life, exact details, then the question, the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:46

final question to take is, what does it take for you to rise up

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:51

and grow now? Nobody falls up a mountain. You walk up one step

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:54

at a time, so jumping from where you are to complete in one go

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:29:58

isn't going to happen. It's. Growth doesn't happen that way.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:01

Muscles aren't built that way. Fortunes aren't built that way.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:04

Brands aren't built that way. It takes a step at a time, and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:09

today is a good day to start go to the mirror, look in the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:14

mirror, in your own eyes, deeply, and say, I love you. I

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:18

love you for even thinking about this, and then start trying on

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:22

things I am, what I'm the very best, what like? What lights you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:32

up? If you have trouble with that, again, I invite you to

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:37

reach out. Here's what I know from my journey of the last 17

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:40

years, the first three or four, I had a lot of work to do to

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:43

clean stuff up. The last 13, I have been pursuing diligently

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:51

that journey, and I have answered the questions, and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:55

today I live the ultimate life purpose, prosperity and joy and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:30:59

so coming from death and getting to where I am like I know the

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:03

road, and I know all the excuses I used to use and the people and

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:08

things I used to blame, and you're free to continue to do

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:13

that, or you're free to change it right now, One declaration,

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:19

one decision, one tiny step at a time. Look up your mountain.

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:27

Take one step. What would be one step closer to that dream you

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:32

have? Why not take it today. My mission is to help two 50

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:38

million people, and that includes you. I'd love to talk

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:41

to you. I'd love to help you, because the view from the top is

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:47

glorious, beyond description, and you deserve to have

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:51

everything you dream and to be living your ultimate life. Open

Kellan Fluckiger: 00:31:58

your heart this time

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around. Around. Thank you for listening to

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