Episode 153 – The Miracle of Forgiveness

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What you are about to learn

One of the things that get in the way of achieving your ultimate life is regret. And regret comes because of mistakes that we make or something that we do intentionally that are wrong. Now, forgiveness depends on a couple of things. Sometimes people use the word forgive with the phrase, forget, forgive and forget two completely different things. You can forget something and not ignore it. And that would mean that every time something reminds you, you still carry that grudge and anger. You can forgive someone and not forget, and always, genuinely forgive them. And that's a mistake that people often make. The miracle of forgiveness can happen whether or not the other person does anything. And so if you are burdened by regret,  things you either did mistakes inadvertently or more powerfully those things that we do that on purpose that we know hurt, and then we're sorry for sometimes for the rest of our lives. 

Here are two pieces for that forgiveness that you can do. Number one, you can do what you can to repair the mistakes or intentional wrongdoing. You can do what you can to repair, and it is not up to you whether or not that person is ready to forgive. That's not on you, that's on them. But you can do whatever you can in good faith and in true spirit to repair that, and then the forgiveness you need to bestow in that case is on yourself. It would be best if you forgave yourself. Choose to forgive everyone who has wronged you. And again, I'm not talking about ignoring or putting yourself in danger, but I am talking about forgiveness, where true love and grace cover the wound in your heart and heal your heart.

 

Key Takeaways

“I chose to refuse sounds like a harsh word. I chose to be no longer burdened by carrying around an expectation that someone would ever apologize, or that they would even feel bad or do anything. I dropped all that and chose to forgive. Now, the miracle was this when I made that choice, and it took some work, and it took repeated effort and wasn't a one-time thing. It took a lot of work. But as I did that, I became free. I became free, independent of whatever they thought, did, or felt. So, that was a thing that was a blessing for me. That was a miracle.”

"What we do when we don't forgive ourselves is that we limit our ability to do good from that moment forward. We wear a rock for the rest of our lives that say I can never run very fast. I can never do very much good. I can never carry very much light because I did this thing."

 

"Here's the exciting thing. Someone who chooses never to forgive will never accept any penance or attempt at reconciliation that you make. It will never be enough, it will always be inadequate, and the wound will still be there because they choose to keep it. Don't be one of those people because you are needlessly and permanently carrying damage that you can leave by the side of the road any time you want."

 

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